How to “really enjoy” sex life at the age of 45
A couple’s relationship in their 20s is like a gel, but when the husband reaches the age of 45, his wife suddenly loses his sex in his eyes. When his wife is embarrassed to mention sex, he always opens the subject.
They rarely have sex, and the original intimacy has become indifferent.
銆€銆€The other couple entered the age of no doubt, and the sex life has changed – to become more beautiful.
Of course, they don’t play in bed like newlyweds, but they agree that the other side has become “more sexually attractive” in their own eyes.
銆€銆€How to explain these two very different situations of increasing love?
A psychologist and sex counseling expert said in a nutshell: “The key is understanding and mutual understanding, because when people reach middle age, the physical, lifestyle and sexual reactions of both men and women have changed.
“It is rich for women. Some changes are caused by menopause, while thick menstruation is the result of decreased estrogen secretion.”
The average age of women’s menopause is 50-54 years old, but the process begins around 45 years and lasts for 4-5 years.
In this “quasi-menopausal period”, women’s vaginal tissue became thinner and drier than the original lubrication, which made the original sexual pleasures become uncomfortable and even painful.
Without understanding these physiological changes, women may complain that their husbands are rude and avoid sexual life when they are having sex, and the husband mistakenly believes that the wife no longer loves himself.
銆€銆€Men also undergo changes in hormone secretion, testosterone that causes libido, reaching maximum secretion during their 20-30 years of age, and then gradually decreasing (a study shows that from 20-60 years old, every 1/4 years is reduced by 1/4).
After comparing 77 married men aged 45-77, a sexologist in New York reported that sexual interest, sexual desire, and sexual intercourse decreased with testosterone (but not necessarily affecting “satisfaction”).
Mainly due to the reduced blood supply to the penis, their “erection” is not as strong as the entertainment network.
銆€銆€However, all of the above changes should not affect the sexual life.
For example, a woman who feels vaginal discomfort can solve the problem by changing her sexual position or using a susceptibility lubricant sold by a pharmacy; the man’s 鈥渆rection鈥?is not as strong as it was, and it turns out that he does not prevent him from reaching orgasm.
A urologist and anyangshu treatment expert said: “If you divide the degree of erection into 0-10 degrees, you will wake up with 6-7 degrees.
Experts also believe that these changes actually help to improve the relationship between husband and wife and sex – if they are good at using it.
銆€銆€Here are the tricks for the best sex life after the age of 45: 1. Coordination rhythm: A physiologist describes 鈥溾€榮exuality’ is fast and fierce when young, burning like a firecracker.
“A man in his 20s reaches orgasm 2-5 minutes after the start of sexual intercourse; his wife may take more than 20 minutes to reach its apex.”
As men enter the middle-aged rhythm from slow to slow, due to slower blood supply to the penis and reduced muscle elasticity, men in their 40s and 50s need more room to reach orgasm, and the intensity of the map is not as good as before.First, the husband’s sexual rhythm will be closer to his wife’s, and he will be able to taste the pleasures of sexual intercourse as she does.
For the woman, because her husband is 鈥渟ynchronized鈥?with her, her reaction will undoubtedly be more heated.
According to a foreign study, women in all ages are the most difficult to reach orgasm when they are in their 20s, and 40-44 years old is the easiest – and the difference is very large.
It can be seen that middle-aged men are more concerned about their sexual pleasures and also increase their sexual happiness.
銆€銆€Second, supplemented by action: When more than 20 years old, most men see their wife undressing naturally “erect”.
But after the age of 45, it is not enough to rely on visual stimulation. They also need the kiss and warmth of their wives to get into the sexual excitement.
According to this, marriage and sexologists believe that if the middle-aged boyfriend shifts his attention from 鈥渟eeing鈥?to 鈥渄oing鈥?in the preparation stage, that is, paying more attention to tactile stimulation (such as conversion, kissing, rubbing, touching sensitive parts),Sexual life can be significantly improved.
銆€銆€Third, balance “warp board”: a man recalls: in the early days of marriage, sex is his initiative; but 20 years later, his wife is often a “founder.”
This is because the different changes in hormone secretion make the sexual impulses of both sides tend to balance.
We know that both men and women secrete testosterone and estrogen. As they enter middle age, men’s testosterone secretion decreases, and the proportion of estrogen increases, making him more willing to “follow” rather than “initiate” to his wife.Leadership” can’t be loved.
On the contrary, the female’s estrogen secretion decreased and the proportion of testosterone increased, so she showed more active self-confidence in sexual intercourse.
銆€銆€4. 鈥淨uality鈥?is supplemented by 鈥渜uantity鈥? According to a survey conducted by the University of Chicago, couples aged 25-29 love at least 2-3 times a week, 11% of whom are more than 4 times, 40-44 years old.Only 30% of people can maintain this level, and 45% answer 鈥渁bout three times a month鈥?(partly because of fatigue and child care).
However, the proportion of boyfriends in their 40s who exceed the age of any age group is considered to be the result of love and physical satisfaction.
銆€銆€As the frequency of sex decreases, spouses need to realize that each time sexual intercourse is precious, it should be the time for both right and active to participate and share.
Therefore, a strong-coupled couple always emphasizes frequency more and pays more attention to quality. Zhu Siman said: “Those who are in their 40s will remember this time or that time, and the young couples will always beBlurring: “When sex is no longer a commonplace, every time you obviously become important to you.
In short, sexual life after the age of 45 requires a series of adjustments, but it is inevitable and normal for people to understand change, and for couples who work together to deal with them, happiness may be more than ever, and theirSexual life is still perfect in the 40s, 50s, and even older.